On health apps

On health, On sex ed

As the end of the school year nears, people start to panic about pretty much everything. This is especially true for those of you who are graduating. College kids are always stressed and broke. Here are a few free apps that can help with stress, clear up questions, and help you try and keep some of your sanity.

First off Pacifica. Pacifica is a stress and anxiety reducing app. It uses actual treatments and teaches you how to apply them to your daily life. It comes with a mood/health tracker, meditations and mindfulness, relaxation techniques, self-help guidance, goals, progress tracker and peer community support. You can get it here for iOS and android with paid upgrades.

Another stress relieving app is called Headspace. This is a guided meditation app that gives you the skills to be happier and healthier. Level one is made up of ten guided meditations to start you off, with a paid subscription to access all of their meditations. You can get it here for iOS and andriod.

Calm is another meditation app. Unlike Headspace, Calm has guided and unguided meditations, breathing exercises, soundscapes. Calm also features sleep stories, which combine music, soundscapes and nice voices to send you off to sleep. Get it here for iOS or android.

Yoga Studio is one of the most popular yoga apps out there. It comes with hundreds of poses, videos, and guides for people of every level out there. Get it here for iOS or android.

My Sex Doctor is an app all about sex ed in the real world. It talks about pleasure, safe sex, STIs, your body, relationships, dating, flirting and anything in between. Get it here for iOS or andriod.

For anyone who gets a period, Eve is a fantastic period tracker and sexual health app. It helps track your cycle, gives you health tips, teach you more about your body and sex, and provides science based information on birth control, your body, birth control and sex. You can get it here for iOS or andriod with paid upgrades.

Planned Parenthood recently came out with their own period tracker app called Spot On. It tracks your cycle, symptoms, and provides accurate information on sex, birth control and your body. Get it here for iOS and android.

Evernote is a great organization app. It lets you list, take notes and pictures all while allowing you to share across devices. You can also share with other users of the app, making it useful for group projects. You can get it here for iOS or andriod.

None of the health apps are supposed to replace a real doctor. While they have accurate, scientific information, always go to a professional if you have a real concern.

Every best wish,

Julia

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On pronouns

On sexuality

Traditionally, gender is binary, or split into two options: he and she. Gender fluidity, agender, intersex, and other non-binary identities challenge this idea. The idea that gender is more of a spectrum with masculinity and one end and femininity at the other is becoming more accepted. For society to be inclusive and respectful to all identities and expression of gender there needs to be a gender neutral pronoun. As we become more and more inclusive, the list of preferred pronouns grows.

The most common is “they”. It is used just like the plural they, but instead to refer to a singular person. Instead of “He enjoyed himself.” you would say “They enjoyed themself.” They and themself take the place of he and himself respectively. Other pronouns include co, en, ey, xie, yo and ze. People choose pronouns based off of personal identity and what they feel most comfortable with.

A handy guide from UCDavis lists them out here:

co

co

cos

cos

coself

en

en

ens

ens

enself

ey

em

eir

eirs

emself

he

him

his

his

himself

she

her

her

hers

herself

they

them

their

theirs

themself

xie

hir (“here”)

hir

hirs

hirself

yo

yo

yos

yos

yoself

ze

zir

zir

zirs

zirself

Again, these are by no means the only options, just the ones most commonly used.

So some questions:

Why use gender neutral pronouns?

Using the correct pronouns is a respect thing. If you use someone’s preferred gender pronouns (PGP), it shows to them that you respect their gender identity. This is huge. More importantly, it shows that you respect them as a person. Using the wrong pronouns, intentionally or not, can make someone feel alienated or invalid. It’s just as insulting to be called “he” if you identify as “she” as it is to be if you identify as “ze”.

How do I ask someone’s pronouns?

It can be an awkward thing to do. Chances are, the person will be happy you asked. Again, its a show of respect.

One way to ask is to introduce yourself with your pronouns and then ask the other person. Example: “My name is _______ and my pronouns are _____/_____. What about you?”

You could ask just ask directly “What pronouns do you prefer?”

When in doubt, just use the person’s name. It can be awkward to ask, but its more awkward to assume.

What if I make a mistake?

It is perfectly okay. Just correct yourself, apologize and keep going. The fact that you’re making an effort is a good thing.

Remember to always keep in mind the person’s needs. Keep in mind if they are closeted or not. Many people are open with their identities in some circles and not others. Ask in what situations each pronoun is appropriate or what the person is comfortable with. The last thing you want to do is out them by accident.

As always, keep an open mind, do your research and communicate!

Every best wish,

Julia